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What Makes Someone Throw it All Away?

Have you ever had a dream so big that it didn’t even fit in the room with you?

Have you ever felt the intimidation and the sheer unadulterated fear of having a dream so big that it scared the holy bajeebers out of you?

Do you ever find yourself asking your imaginary minions these questions:

  • “How did I get here?”
  • “This is not the direction I wanted to go, what happened?”
  • “What in the heck am I doing with my life?”

I was there, I was so there once. I was sitting on the edge of disaster. Seemingly having everything so put together and polished that everyone was jealous.

Ooh, why can’t we be just like them? They have all the coolest toys? They even have matching Jeeps. They are such a cute couple!” No one noticed our reality, “They never take a vacation. They are always traveling for work, but never for fun. They must be the hardest working couple on the planet. They constantly have balls, plates, bowling pins, knives, and chainsaws tossed up in the air to juggle. How do they do it all? They never seem to slow down. Boy, they sure do run, run, run all the time!

Life was passing us by at the speed of light. Little did we know that it was all about to come to a screeching halt and then crumble around us. It was a surreal, “This can’t really be happening” moment. It sucked. You can read more about it here. This isn’t a post about THAT story again.

Who throws away everything they’ve built?

Someone in pain.

Someone standing at the threshold of all that has passed before them and all that is still to come and realizing, finally, that they are more in control of their destiny than they ever believed possible.

Someone ready to change the world…one person at a time…starting with themselves.

Pain is the strongest motivator for change. Just ask the scientists and psychologists. Indeed, it is almost impossible to effect lasting change unless there is a physical or emotional pain catalyst. It’s not completely impossible, but it’s very, very difficult.

What can you do if you want to change yourself? Your situation? Your patterns? Your Life?

You can invest in yourself.

Truly see the good that is inside of you and embrace it wholeheartedly. Ignore the naysayers, they suck anyway.

Find people who support you and remind you of how incredibly awesome you are. We are the sum of the five people we spend the most time with. Be sure you are surrounding yourself with positive influences.

But, also be mindful of not just surrounding yourself with a ship full of ‘yes’ people. You know what I mean, people who nod their heads in the affirmative no matter what you say. I had that problem in a job once. It got old. I quit. Now I work from home and I surround myself with people who positively adore me, yet challenge me!

They push me to be a better version of myself every. single. day.

Life is much, much too short to spend it in a vast expanse of emptiness wondering why you get up everyday and repeat the same awful Groundhog Day experience over and over again.

Let me ask you something. When’s the last time you did something that you truly enjoy?

When’s the last time you:

  • enjoyed a hobby (golf, basketball, woodworking, painting, etc)
  • read a good book – just for you
  • played with your kids – like time was standing still
  • enjoyed an evening unplugged – from any and all technology
  • spent time with parents or other family members – really catching up and listening to them regale you with stories of when they were young
  • wrote something – a book, a letter, a poem, in a journal
  • drew something – with crayons, colored pencils, paint, charcoal
  • volunteered your time
  • went for a walk, hike, or a jog – for the enjoyment of it
  • sat on the porch and just watched the busy, busy world rush by – you, yourself calm, for just a moment

You have the power to change your life – I did.

If you are rushing around, spread too thin, in the active pursuit of the glorification of busy and are ready to get off of that train – NOW – then check out A Year of Time. It’s the perfect remedy if you’re tired of running in the hamster wheel of life and getting nowhere.

I can also help you remember what your number one priority is, identify and slay your time thieves, and remind you to intentionally focus your precious ‘free time’ on what matters most to you – contact meΒ to schedule a free Punt the Pandemonium sesh.

I’d positively love to talk to you!

Until then, be diligent in your belief that you have the power within yourself to create a life worth living – for you.

8 thoughts on “What Makes Someone Throw it All Away?

  1. Rachael

    Ah, Lisa — this one cut straight to the heart. Throwing away “everything you’ve built” gives you an opportunity to build again and use all the wisdom you’ve gained in your first constructions to create something even more amazing. And maybe one day, we’ll want to tear it down again! That’s how this crazy circle game goes πŸ™‚ By the way, I LOVE the name of your “Punt the Pandemonium” sesh. Love it. <3 <3 <3

  2. Lisa Landtroop Post author

    Oh, thanks so much Rachael!! You’re absolutely right, too. I refer to the ebb and flow of life frequently. It definitely is a never-ending cycle. And for once I’m not afraid to scrap it all and build something brand new all over again, and again, and again, and again! I’m very blessed to have a man in my life who is ready to do that with me! That’s all that really matters in the overall scheme of things – having the support of those who love you, even if it’s sometimes not who you thought it would / should be!

  3. Coach Jennie

    This is the most beautifully written introduction to your work possible, Lisa! I adore it! Everyone that reads this should schedule a Punt the Pandemonium Sesh immediately!

    I like to think you are one of my “five people” that I surround myself with, even though we’ve not yet met in person. You inspire me daily through A Year of Time and by pushing me to make time for the really important things.

    Bravo on a fantastic post!

  4. Lisa Landtroop Post author

    Thank you sooo much Jennie for the cheers and bravos! It goes without saying that you are definitely one of the people in my life who pushes me daily to be better than I was the day before – and for that I am truly privileged!

  5. Tai Goodwin

    This journey connected with where I’ve been. Back in 2009 I left the east coast and headed to the Twin Cities, where I knew absolutely no one! Three years later I let go of a six-figure income to step into my purpose. The freedom, purpose, and passion I have now is something I would never trade. Had I not been willing to “throw everything away”, I know that I would be struggling with depression and be a lot more angry. Thanks for sharing your story – the brilliance you shared reflects my own light.

  6. Lisa Landtroop Post author

    Tai this is beautiful! Thanks for sharing your story with me – I think it’s an inspiration to others who may be ‘missing’ something and can’t put their finger on it πŸ™‚

  7. Jennifer

    “We are the sum of the 5 people we spend the most time with”. I will have to dwell on that for at least a day. The past 2 years has presented many challenges, most of which were not my choice. I’m excited & energized by the women I am currently surrounded by. Thanks for giving me the chance to examine.

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